I Need YOUR help! For the duration of my Loc journey, I must say that dry locs has been the #1 struggle. As a loose natural you are able to feed your hair with conditioners and deep treatments resulting in shiny, moist and jaw dropping healthy hair. With locs however, the danger lies in the risk of build up. We can no longer use the same kinds of products so what and how do we moisturize???? I recently tried a banana coconut deep conditioner only to result in a build up sleep over in my hair. I am running out of ideas. Although I am a big advocate in experimenting, I am willing to sit this one out and seek some of your counsel. Leave a comment down below or under my YouTube video as well as on Instagram ( blissfulbeni ) letting me know of any tips that you may have specifically for locs. THANK YOU!
I have been bad at recording my Loc journey. For half of the journey I was second guessing, going back and forth and worrying if I should remove it or not. There were negative comments, uncertain gazes and also very pleasant compliments. I had wanted locs from my teenage years and was forever afraid. There were stories of airport security checking your locs, searching you for drugs. There was the constant reminder that I would never get a good job. I have no idea of how many of those things are true. All I know as I type this is that this is one thing I have always wanted to do and I have done.It is something I want to see the results of no matter how many times I think of cutting them and going back to what everyone considers to be normal.
I went against parents, and some close friends. I understand them. Life is hard when you go against the grain in any way. I always quit on many things but even just a year of Locs has made me feel that so much more is possible if I stick to all those things I say I would do or want to do. There is so much more out there that I am too afraid to conquer including showing my mother that I have locs (no she doesn’t even know as yet) Fears are real. 2016 was waist deep full of fears and there is much more ahead. If defeating just one can make you this strong imagine how it would feel to conquer the majority of them.
I have experimented with both palm rolling and interlocking. I have tried oils , creamy conditioners and most recently, black hair dye. I have never had locs before and I am taking care of it myself. Sure, I do not know what I am doing the majority of the time but this has been such a great learning experience. Holistically challenging. Some may only understand after experiencing it. With locs you are changing so much. What the world would accept as beautiful, you are challenging it. What you have grown up believing is beautiful is also challenged. You may drown in the negative opinions that everyone else will dip you under or you can rise against it and think of you and what you want. It is difficult. Especially growing up with chains of expectations that friends and family have set for you.
I cannot say do not give up on your journey. I do not know if I may give up on mine soon. However, if you are thinking of starting locs, I will tell you to try it out and try it just a little bit longer. That is the only way you will ever know isn’t it. If you do decide to try something else. So what. it’s your hair and your moment to experiment.
Whatever you choose…….
To celebrate our 300 day celebration we chose yet another Asian restaurant called Rituals Sushi. We set our budget for the night and headed out, me giddy as usual. I had always wanted to taste sushi and was bubbling with excitement. The scene was set near the Marina, and everything was beautiful including my date.
My Dimpled Chin Chocolate,YUM.
Our appetizers might have been one my favorite meals.I enjoyed it so much that I forgot to take pics of it. We both chose Spring roll appetizers which we dipped in the most delicious sweet sauce. It’s rare to have a vegetarian option taste so good! I was craving more of that one dish when I woke up this morning.
I also chose a Miso soup which was common in anime and other things of that nature. Naturally I had to taste it and gosh was it good. At first I was surprised wondering what is this watery brown thing. The very first sip was like traveling to another continent in one bowl of soup. It was also my first time tasting the famous seaweed which I adore in my Korean Dramas. I also forgot to take a pic of it as I was too busy sipping away.
Devouring The Spring Rolls Vegetarian option
Finally came along our highlight dishes. Tevin my love chose a salmon roll which I enjoyed more than my choice which was a tuna roll. His was drizzled with the most delicious sauce ever and then i chose to try it with the side soy sauce. SIGH . I love when eating becomes more than just eating and instead you have an entire experience in your mouth.It was so good that I already hoped to go back to the restaurant sometime in the future.
Grilled Salmon Roll
Maguro Maki (Tuna Roll)
My Locs be looking good too….