I have heard and been guilty of not setting any new year resolutions because I “know” that I wouldn’t complete them anyway. Honestly I think that is stupid.
If there was a large jar to collect the amount of motivation that the world has during the new year period I am certain it would be a very very large jar. what better time to begin completing something than this time where your motivation and drive is at the all time high. Last year I opened up this blog in January as a new year resolution. I made many other resolutions but among the many that I didn’t complete, here I am today still writing in this blog.
People like myself often set multiple very large New years resolutions and to be honest I think we have the ability to complete them all whether they be large or small. The reason why I love setting goals for the new year is because like this blog, I am certain that if I just train myself to become more diligent that I will be able to cross off everything on my list and even if I haven’t done everything, something always gets done.
I know that it might be boring to read, me starting over and over all the time. To me , I am trying hard to keep getting up after negative self talk. Completing goals is easier said than done and I am not pleased with the amount of times I have seen Write a book on my new years list. However, the fact that it is one goal that always appears makes me feel like this is something that I really want to do.
This message is more for me than you: Don’t give up before you even started.
What are some goals that appear on your resolution list every year?
I have been bad at recording my Loc journey. For half of the journey I was second guessing, going back and forth and worrying if I should remove it or not. There were negative comments, uncertain gazes and also very pleasant compliments. I had wanted locs from my teenage years and was forever afraid. There were stories of airport security checking your locs, searching you for drugs. There was the constant reminder that I would never get a good job. I have no idea of how many of those things are true. All I know as I type this is that this is one thing I have always wanted to do and I have done.It is something I want to see the results of no matter how many times I think of cutting them and going back to what everyone considers to be normal.
I went against parents, and some close friends. I understand them. Life is hard when you go against the grain in any way. I always quit on many things but even just a year of Locs has made me feel that so much more is possible if I stick to all those things I say I would do or want to do. There is so much more out there that I am too afraid to conquer including showing my mother that I have locs (no she doesn’t even know as yet) Fears are real. 2016 was waist deep full of fears and there is much more ahead. If defeating just one can make you this strong imagine how it would feel to conquer the majority of them.
I have experimented with both palm rolling and interlocking. I have tried oils , creamy conditioners and most recently, black hair dye. I have never had locs before and I am taking care of it myself. Sure, I do not know what I am doing the majority of the time but this has been such a great learning experience. Holistically challenging. Some may only understand after experiencing it. With locs you are changing so much. What the world would accept as beautiful, you are challenging it. What you have grown up believing is beautiful is also challenged. You may drown in the negative opinions that everyone else will dip you under or you can rise against it and think of you and what you want. It is difficult. Especially growing up with chains of expectations that friends and family have set for you.
I cannot say do not give up on your journey. I do not know if I may give up on mine soon. However, if you are thinking of starting locs, I will tell you to try it out and try it just a little bit longer. That is the only way you will ever know isn’t it. If you do decide to try something else. So what. it’s your hair and your moment to experiment.
Whatever you choose…….